We’ve all had our fair share of hurtful moments; moments of fear, loss, disappointment, heartbreak etc.
Sometimes these moments are small and pass quickly but sometimes they don’t; sometimes we get stuck in the hurt!
I’ve been stuck in the hurt a few times.
Like the time when my first crush broke my heart because I just wasn’t his type. I spent a lot of time, wishing I had shiny, wavy hair like the girl he chose instead of me. It took me a while to get back to embracing my brown skin and kinky hair.
Like the time when I told my parents I was pregnant and they shunned me and told me what a disgrace I was. And for nine months I felt alone and ashamed, missing out on what should have been a beautiful experience.
Like when the love of my life hit me for the first time. After that, I spent the next several years lost not knowing who I was and what my life would be like from one moment to the next.
But it was through these moments and others that I realized that when we’re hurting, there are some steps we can take to help ensure that we don’t get so rooted in the pain that we lose ourselves and our place in our life journey.
Here are the steps I took…